I think a lot of people just assume that the more "social" society is, the better people will get along. I think there is a fine balance, and we've far overshot our limits of "sociability." We are in this age where all the jobs are becoming "service sector" and our religion of Capitalism makes us worship at the fountain of "consumerism" as a way of life. This creates a situation where all our introverts can't find ample amounts of peaceful solitude. In prior times there were plenty of jobs that allowed us to do hard work but without the constant "servicing" of "customers" and home-lives that had privacy and autonomy...not ultra-concentrated urban life.
Add on top of that forever-present smart devices, dopamine monopolizing social media, and instant gratification marketing... and we have a society pressed to the brink of homicidal rage to not have to constantly deal with/worry about other people.
Why do wealthy elites not care which President we have...why do the wealthy elite politicians feel no pressure to create any legislation or even bother to placate their constituents...because they have their solace. They can retreat to ice-cream filled castles, or luxury golf-courses, or just escape into their cabins in the woods...without a worry of livelihoods, obligations, or emergencies...they control the resources and they have the rest of the population to service THEM.
Aside from our leadership problem, however, we need to restructure society so that we DO cater to different personalities, different "ideal" working conditions, and different living conditions. I think we're finding that it's oversimplified to believe that any job is fine for anyone, and that any living condition is fine for anyone. While things like Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs rings somewhat true to me, I don't think you can strip people down to ONLY the lower rings of need, and have functional citizens.
So bringing this back around to Socialization, we can't keep believing "one size fits all." Humans aren't homogeneous, and our societal structure assumes they are. Polling reveals a lot of this, huge percentages of people prefer one thing, and other huge percentages prefer the opposite...there is no middle ground. This puts a big question before us...in a time of ever-increasing interdependence...can we design a society that can allow vastly divergent ways of living and thinking...and make them work together in a functioning System. That is probably one of the big questions of our time.
